The best way to deal with these problems is to decide how to tackle the subject before it happens.
Our guide shines some light on troublesome issues that many people come across and offers tried and tested advice on how to successfully manage them.
Dilemma: Kids or no kids?
No matter what your decision, various guests might take issue with the outcome. Some couples will be delighted to leave their children at home and have a few drinks, but you can only expect parents to abscond without their little people if the wedding is not too far away.
What’s important to remember is that it’s your big day, not theirs. If you feel that you might be stressed or uncomfortable with children skidding on their knees or poking your wedding cake with their fingers, then it’s your decision if you want to invite them or not.
Solution: Stay strong!
Allowing one or two couples to bring their kids when everyone else has had to leave theirs at home will not create a happy atmosphere. If its only little kids you’re worried about, just restrict it to an age limit i.e. only teenagers and above. Just make sure you stick to it!
Dilemma: If you don’t ask…
The newest trend in wedding gift lists is not to do one at all. This can portray the married couple as incredibly posh, but the downside is that you may receive gifts not to your taste or duplicates of items you already have.
Most weddings have an invitation list that comprises people from all walks of life. So your idea of a nice gift is probably not the same as your crazy Aunt who makes her own clothes, or your Uncle Bob who still refuses to use a knife and only drinks wine from the bottle.
Solution: Play safe, choose for them
Unless you are particularly fond of giving away new presents to charity, we’d suggest making a list, but don’t pick somewhere intimidating. Debenhams, Beales, House of Fraser or John Lewis all have ranges to suit different pocket sizes. You can even add a few more expensive items (in the vain hope that someone will want to out-do everyone else), but don’t expect people to get a bad credit loan to help pay for them!
Make sure the list includes a few funky and more exciting gift ideas for those who don’t want to buy you boring bed sheets. Also ensure most of the list is under £80 and include plenty for under £30 for those who are not as well off and might be in bad credit circumstances.
Dilemma: Do I look big in this?
We can understand that looking good in your dress is important, which is why so many people get a bad credit loan to afford their ultimate dress, but you don’t need to get the advice of all your female friends and family. Asking them for ideas before you get a loan to buy it is one thing, asking them after is only going to end in tears.
A simple and harmlessly made comment will play on a stressed brides mind for days. You can spend hours thinking “What did she mean when she only said it was ‘nice’? Why not lovely or ‘gorgeous’ or…”, when the person didn’t mean anything at all.
Solution: Be secretive, it’s more exciting
How you feel you look is the most important thing. To avoid any upsets, don’t take any photos and show it to your friends once the dress is paid for and ready. Besides, it will build excitement before the big day and will create more enthused ‘Ohhs’ and ‘Ahhs’ when your guests do see it.
Dilemma: Family planning
Support is one of the biggest assets a couple can have in the build up to their wedding day, and their family is often the best at it. Unfortunately they are often also the ones who cause the greatest amount of tension, especially if they are helping you with a loan to pay for it.
Dealing with your parents (more precisely, the attendance or non-attendance of their new partners), can be one of the most stressful issues you will face. You don’t want anyone to miss out, but will your Mum come if Dad brings along his new partner or will Dad turn up if his partners not invited?
Some family members may try to pressure you in to inviting people who they think should be there, like cousins or aunts you haven’t seen in years (and never really liked).
Solution: Step in the right direction
The best solution all-round is to not get involved. If people begin to say they aren’t coming if other people are then tell them to work out their differences or neither of them is invited. This normally always works as the threat of not attending your big day is too great.
If they have offered to pay for part of the wedding, then they may feel they are allowed a say in who should be invited. However, a bad credit loan can always help you out should the funds not stretch as far as you had hoped.
Dilemma: Who’s in, Who’s out
Unless you’re either very wealthy, are prepared to take out a very large bad credit loan or are hugely disliked, you won’t be able to invite everyone you want to your wedding. It’s good to start off with a general rule; if you haven’t seen someone for a year, you don’t have to invite them, whether you went to their wedding or not.
The ‘plus ones’ however, can be a little more awkward. Some people use a strict rule of “no bling, no bring”, so unless they are engaged or married their other half does not get an invite. But this could cause some embarrassment for those who have long term partners who are still waiting for them to propose.
Solution: Look to the future
Do you see the couple you’re unsure about inviting, being in your life in the future? If the answer is yes, they’re in. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them or how likely they are to marry, it would be a shame for you not to invite them.
When it comes to the ‘plus ones’, decide if the friend would have a better time if the other half was there, taking in to consideration if they know many of the other guests going or not.
Dilemma: Ex-tra stress?
Your partner's still good friends with their first love, but should this be a reason not to invite them? If you decide to put your foot down and say no would they think you were being petty, or worse, implying that there is still something between them?
Solution: Ex-treme history
Its recommended that you only invite an ex if they are significantly in the past and you are all good friends. Remember, most brides would rather not risk catching the eye of an ex of either partner at any time during their special day.
Dilemma: Speak now or…
Speeches are traditionally performed by the men; father of the bride, best man and the groom himself. But more and more women think that it’s about time they got a chance to perform their own speech.
It should be taken in to consideration that if the order of speeches remains traditional, then the brides will be the fourth of the afternoon and therefore might be expected to outwit the best man.
Writing a speech is hard enough, without any added pressure. Should the father of the bride give an emotional speech, then you’ll hardly have time to wipe the tears off your cheeks and compose yourself before you have to stand up and give your own.
Solution: Act married
If you really want to be involved with the speeches, but are unsure about doing it on your own, then join in with the “Thank You” speech made by the groom. It can be considered your first task as a married couple.
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